The thing about raising three kids is that you stop noticing when your husband starts to disappear.<\/p>\n
You notice everything else. You notice the cough that means somebody\u2019s getting strep. You notice the shoes that suddenly pinch. You notice the face your ten-year-old makes when a girl named Brooklyn stops sitting with her at lunch. You notice the empty milk jug somebody put back in the fridge.<\/p>\n
But the man sleeping next to you? You think you know him. You stop looking.<\/p>\n
I\u2019d been married to Paul for twelve years. We had three kids. Ella was ten, serious and bookish, with my dark hair and her father\u2019s long legs. Benny was seven, all elbows and questions, the kind of kid who asks why the sky is blue and then asks why blue is called blue. And Rosie was four, the baby, loud and sticky and fearless, who still climbed into our bed at three in the morning and slept sideways with her feet in my ribs.<\/p>\n
Paul worked in insurance. Commercial claims. He drove forty minutes each way to an office building in Columbus, sat at a desk for nine hours, and drove home. He\u2019d done it for fourteen years. He said he didn\u2019t mind. He said it paid the mortgage.<\/p>\n
He was a good father. Patient. Funny. He did all the voices when he read bedtime stories. He built a treehouse in the backyard that leaned a little to the left. He let Rosie paint his toenails purple. He could fix almost anything with duct tape and a butter knife.<\/p>\n
He was a quiet man. That\u2019s what people always said about him. Paul\u2019s so quiet. Paul\u2019s so steady.<\/p>\n
I loved that about him. I\u2019d grown up in a loud house. My mother yelled. My father yelled louder. And then, when I was six, my father stopped yelling, because he wasn\u2019t there anymore. He packed a duffel bag on a Tuesday morning and drove to Florida with a woman from his bowling league, and I never saw him again.<\/p>\n
So when I met Paul at twenty-five, a quiet, steady man who never raised his voice, I thought, This one. This one stays.<\/p>\n
And he did. For twelve years, he stayed.<\/p>\n
But about three weeks before the morning I\u2019m about to tell you about, something changed.<\/p>\n
It started on a Sunday.<\/p>\n
We\u2019d been at my sister\u2019s for dinner. When we got home, Paul went to the kitchen to check his email on his laptop while I put the kids to bed. When I came back downstairs, he was sitting at the kitchen table, staring at the screen.<\/p>\n
He didn\u2019t move when I came in. He didn\u2019t even blink.<\/p>\n
\u201cPaul?\u201d<\/p>\n
He jumped. He closed the laptop. Fast. Too fast.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat\u2019s wrong?\u201d I asked.<\/p>\n
\u201cNothing,\u201d he said. \u201cWork stuff. A claim went sideways.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cOn a Sunday?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cInsurance never sleeps,\u201d he said. He tried to smile. It didn\u2019t work.<\/p>\n
That night, I woke up at two and his side of the bed was empty. I found him in the basement. Sitting on the old couch down there, in the dark, with just the glow of his phone on his face.<\/p>\n
\u201cCan\u2019t sleep,\u201d he said. \u201cGo back to bed, Tara.\u201d<\/p>\n
The next morning, he called in sick.<\/p>\n
He said it was a migraine. He\u2019d never had a migraine in his life.<\/p>\n
He stayed home the next day too. And the day after. By the end of the week, he\u2019d gotten a note from his doctor for two weeks of medical leave. Stress, the note said. Exhaustion.<\/p>\n
I was worried. Of course I was. I asked him what was going on. I asked him if something happened at work. I asked him if he was depressed. I asked him if he wanted to talk to somebody.<\/p>\n
He always said the same thing.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m just tired. I just need some rest. I\u2019ll be okay.\u201d<\/p>\n
He spent most of those days in the basement. With the door closed. When I went down to bring him lunch, he\u2019d be on the couch, staring at nothing. Or looking at his phone. He\u2019d put the phone face-down when I came in.<\/p>\n
He stopped reading bedtime stories. He stopped doing the voices. When Rosie asked him to paint his toenails, he said maybe later.<\/p>\n
I told myself it was burnout. Fourteen years of the same desk, the same drive, the same office. People break. I\u2019d read about it. I told myself he\u2019d get better.<\/p>\n
I didn\u2019t look closer.<\/p>\n
I was too busy noticing everything else.<\/p>\n
It was a Wednesday in late October. Gray and cold, with rain in the forecast for the whole week.<\/p>\n
Paul was still on leave. He was asleep. He\u2019d been sleeping late every morning, which wasn\u2019t like him. He used to be up at five-thirty, making coffee, humming.<\/p>\n
I was doing the morning rush by myself. Which, honestly, I\u2019d been doing for three weeks.<\/p>\n
Ella couldn\u2019t find her library book. Benny had put his shoes on the wrong feet and didn\u2019t want to fix them because he said it was \u201ca new style.\u201d Rosie wanted to wear her Halloween costume to preschool, a full-body dinosaur suit with a tail, even though Halloween was still a week away.<\/p>\n
\u201cFine,\u201d I said. \u201cWear the dinosaur. Benny, switch your shoes. Ella, it\u2019s on the kitchen counter under the cereal box. Everybody grab your backpacks. We\u2019re leaving in two minutes.\u201d<\/p>\n
I herded them all down the hallway to the front door. Backpacks. Lunch boxes. Ella\u2019s library book. Rosie\u2019s dinosaur tail dragging on the floor.<\/p>\n
I opened the front door.<\/p>\n
And I froze.<\/p>\n
There, standing right next to the door on our porch, was my husband.<\/p>\n
Not my husband. A statue of my husband.<\/p>\n
Life-sized. Six feet tall. Standing perfectly still on our welcome mat, in the gray morning light.<\/p>\n
It was made of clay. Smooth white clay. Pale and soft-looking, like the inside of a seashell. Every detail was perfect. His face. His jaw. The little bump on the bridge of his nose from when he broke it playing basketball in high school. The way he holds his shoulders, a little hunched, like he\u2019s apologizing for being tall. His hair, swept back the way he wears it. Even the small scar on his chin.<\/p>\n
It was Paul. Exactly Paul.<\/p>\n
Except for one thing.<\/p>\n
The statue\u2019s arms were held out in front of it. Bent at the elbow. Like it was reaching for something. Or about to hold something.<\/p>\n
But there were no hands.<\/p>\n
The arms just ended at the wrists. Smooth and rounded off. Unfinished.<\/p>\n
I stood there in the doorway with three kids behind me and my mouth hanging open.<\/p>\n
\u201cMom,\u201d Benny said. \u201cWhy is Dad outside? Why is Dad white?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s not Dad,\u201d Ella said slowly. \u201cIt\u2019s a statue of Dad.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWhy is there a statue of Dad?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI don\u2019t know, baby,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n
Rosie pushed past my legs in her dinosaur suit. She walked right up to the statue and poked it in the knee.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s squishy,\u201d she said. \u201cLike Play-Doh.\u201d<\/p>\n
She was right. Where she poked it, there was a tiny dent. The clay was soft. Not hard like a statue in a museum. Soft. Like it had never been baked.<\/p>\n
I had no idea what to think.<\/p>\n
So I did the only thing I could think of. I turned around and yelled up the stairs.<\/p>\n
\u201cPaul! Paul, come down here! Right now!\u201d<\/p>\n
It took him a minute. I heard him get out of bed. I heard his feet on the stairs. He came down the hallway in his gray sweatpants and an old T-shirt, rubbing his eyes.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat\u2019s wrong? Is somebody hurt?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cLook,\u201d I said. I stepped aside.<\/p>\n
He looked past me. Out the front door. At the porch.<\/p>\n
At himself.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve known Paul for fourteen years. I\u2019ve seen him at his father\u2019s funeral. I\u2019ve seen him in the delivery room three times. I\u2019ve seen him the night Benny had a seizure from a fever and stopped breathing for eleven seconds.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve never seen his face do what it did right then.<\/p>\n
All the color left it. All of it. At once. Like somebody had pulled a plug. He went completely white. Whiter than the statue.<\/p>\n
He grabbed the doorframe.<\/p>\n
\u201cPaul?\u201d I said. \u201cPaul, what is this? Who made this?\u201d<\/p>\n
He didn\u2019t answer.<\/p>\n
He pushed past me. Past the kids. Out onto the porch. In his bare feet. In the cold.<\/p>\n
He grabbed the statue around the middle. He started dragging it toward the door.<\/p>\n
It was heavy. Really heavy. He grunted. His bare feet slipped on the wet porch. The statue\u2019s base scraped across the welcome mat.<\/p>\n
\u201cPaul! What are you doing?\u201d<\/p>\n
He didn\u2019t answer. He just kept dragging it. Over the threshold. Into the front hall. The kids scattered out of the way. Rosie squealed.<\/p>\n
\u201cDid you order this?\u201d I asked. \u201cWhere did it come from? Who sent it? Paul! Talk to me!\u201d<\/p>\n
He got the statue inside. He leaned it carefully against the wall in the front hall. He was breathing hard. His hands were shaking.<\/p>\n
He was looking at it. At its face. His face. At the arms reaching out with no hands.<\/p>\n
\u201cPaul,\u201d I said. \u201cAnswer me.\u201d<\/p>\n
He turned around. He looked at me. His eyes were wet.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019ll handle it,\u201d he said. His voice was barely a whisper. \u201cJust take the kids to school.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cPaul\u2014\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cPlease, Tara,\u201d he said. \u201cPlease. Just take them to school. I\u2019ll explain. I promise. Just\u2026 not in front of them.\u201d<\/p>\n
I looked at my three kids. Standing in the front hall with their backpacks. Staring at their father. Staring at the clay version of their father leaning against the wall. Rosie had her thumb in her mouth. Benny\u2019s eyes were huge. Ella was looking back and forth between Paul and me with that serious little frown she gets.<\/p>\n
I knew something was very wrong.<\/p>\n
But I couldn\u2019t yell. Not with the kids standing right there.<\/p>\n
\u201cFine,\u201d I said. My voice was tight. \u201cFine. But when I get back, you\u2019re telling me everything.\u201d<\/p>\n
He nodded. He didn\u2019t look at me.<\/p>\n
I herded the kids out the door and down the porch steps to the minivan.<\/p>\n
It was starting to rain. Just a drizzle. I opened the sliding door of the van.<\/p>\n
Ella climbed into the back row. She buckled herself. Benny climbed into his booster seat in the middle row. Rosie wanted me to lift her in, dinosaur tail and all.<\/p>\n
I lifted her. I set her in her car seat. I started untangling the straps from around the dinosaur tail.<\/p>\n
While I was buckling her in, I felt somebody tug on the back of my coat.<\/p>\n
It was Benny. He\u2019d leaned forward in his booster seat. He was holding something out to me.<\/p>\n
A piece of paper. Folded into a small square. A little damp from the rain. A little crumpled, like a seven-year-old had been holding it in his fist.<\/p>\n
\u201cMom,\u201d Benny said. \u201cThis was under the statue.\u201d<\/p>\n
I stopped buckling.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWhen Dad was dragging it,\u201d Benny said. \u201cIt was under the bottom. Stuck to the mat. It fell off. I picked it up.\u201d He looked worried. \u201cWas I supposed to give it to Dad?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo, honey,\u201d I said. \u201cYou did the right thing.\u201d<\/p>\n
I took the paper.<\/p>\n
I finished buckling Rosie. I closed the van door. I got into the driver\u2019s seat.<\/p>\n
And I unfolded it.<\/p>\n
It was a sheet of heavy paper. Thick and creamy, the kind they sell at art supply stores. The handwriting was neat and careful, in black ink. A young person\u2019s handwriting. A woman\u2019s, I thought.<\/p>\n
I read it.<\/p>\n
Paul,<\/p>\n
You didn\u2019t answer my email. Or the second one. Or the letter. So I made you something instead.<\/p>\n
This is unfired clay. Do you know what that means? It means it\u2019s not finished. It\u2019s not permanent. If you leave it outside, the rain will start to wash it away. It\u2019s supposed to rain all week. By Friday, there won\u2019t be much of you left. Just a lump on your porch.<\/p>\n
If you let that happen, I\u2019ll understand. I\u2019ll take the hint. You\u2019ll never hear from me again. I promise.<\/p>\n
But if you bring it inside, if you keep it out of the rain, then call me. The number\u2019s at the bottom.<\/p>\n
I left the hands off on purpose. I didn\u2019t know what you\u2019d do with them. I still don\u2019t.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve been looking at your face in pictures for six months to make this. Your Facebook. Your wife\u2019s Instagram. Your kids\u2019 school play. I know it better than I know my own face, now.<\/p>\n
I just wanted you to have to look at it too. Even once.<\/p>\n
\u2014 Lila<\/p>\n
(Your daughter. Yes. You have one. You know you do. I\u2019m 23 now.)<\/p>\n
And at the bottom, a phone number.<\/p>\n
I read it twice.<\/p>\n
Then I read it a third time.<\/p>\n
Your daughter.<\/p>\n
You have one.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m 23 now.<\/p>\n
The rain was coming down harder on the windshield. In the back seat, Rosie was singing a song about dinosaurs. Benny was asking Ella what \u201cunfired\u201d means. Ella was saying she didn\u2019t know.<\/p>\n
I sat in the driver\u2019s seat of my minivan with the note in my lap, and I couldn\u2019t move.<\/p>\n
Paul was thirty-nine. I did the math without meaning to. Twenty-three years ago, he was sixteen. No. Twenty-three years ago he was\u2026 I counted again. Thirty-nine minus twenty-three. Sixteen. If she was born when he was sixteen.<\/p>\n
Or seventeen. Or eighteen, if she just turned twenty-three. He\u2019d been eighteen, nineteen. A teenager.<\/p>\n
Twelve years of marriage. Fourteen years together. Three kids.<\/p>\n
And my husband had a daughter.<\/p>\n
A daughter he never told me about.<\/p>\n
A daughter he hadn\u2019t answered when she wrote to him.<\/p>\n
Or the second one. Or the letter.<\/p>\n
Three weeks ago. A Sunday night. Him staring at his laptop at the kitchen table like he\u2019d seen a ghost.<\/p>\n
\u201cMom?\u201d Ella said from the back seat. \u201cAre we going? We\u2019re going to be late.\u201d<\/p>\n
I looked at her in the rearview mirror. My serious ten-year-old. With her father\u2019s long legs.<\/p>\n
She had a sister. A twenty-three-year-old sister.<\/p>\n
She didn\u2019t know.<\/p>\n
None of us knew.<\/p>\n
\u201cYeah, baby,\u201d I said. My voice sounded strange to me. \u201cWe\u2019re going.\u201d<\/p>\n
I folded the note back into a square. I put it in my coat pocket.<\/p>\n
I started the car.<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t remember driving them to school.<\/p>\n
I remember Rosie\u2019s preschool teacher laughing at the dinosaur costume. I remember Benny running into the elementary school with his shoes still a little crooked. I remember Ella stopping at the car door before she got out.<\/p>\n
\u201cMom,\u201d she said. \u201cIs Dad okay?\u201d<\/p>\n
I looked at her.<\/p>\n
\u201cI don\u2019t know, Ella,\u201d I said honestly. \u201cBut I\u2019m going to find out.\u201d<\/p>\n
She nodded slowly. She looked at me for a long moment. Ella always knows more than she says.<\/p>\n
\u201cOkay,\u201d she said. And she went inside.<\/p>\n
I sat in the school parking lot for twenty minutes with the engine running.<\/p>\n
I thought about my father. The duffel bag. The Tuesday morning. Florida. The woman from the bowling league. I thought about being six years old and sitting on the front steps every Saturday morning for a year, in my good dress, waiting. Because my mother told me he\u2019d probably come visit on the weekends.<\/p>\n
He never came.<\/p>\n
I thought about sending him a letter when I was sixteen. I found his address in my mother\u2019s old address book. I wrote him four pages. I told him about school and my best friend and the cat we got. I told him I was going to be a nurse. I asked if he remembered me.<\/p>\n
He never wrote back.<\/p>\n
I thought about how I married Paul because he was quiet and steady. Because he was the kind of man who stays.<\/p>\n
And I thought about a girl named Lila. Twenty-three years old. Spending six months studying my husband\u2019s face in pictures. On my Instagram. In my children\u2019s school play. Building him out of clay with her own hands.<\/p>\n
And then leaving the hands off.<\/p>\n
Because she didn\u2019t know what he\u2019d do with them.<\/p>\n
I started the car. I drove home.<\/p>\n
Paul was sitting on the bottom step of the stairs in the front hall.<\/p>\n
He hadn\u2019t moved the statue. It was still leaning against the wall where he\u2019d put it. Its blank white face looking out at the front door. Its handless arms reaching out toward nothing.<\/p>\n
Paul was sitting at its feet. Still in his sweatpants. Still barefoot. He had his elbows on his knees and his face in his hands.<\/p>\n
He looked up when I came in.<\/p>\n
I didn\u2019t say anything. I took the note out of my coat pocket. I unfolded it. I held it up so he could see it.<\/p>\n
His face crumpled.<\/p>\n
\u201cBenny found it,\u201d I said. \u201cUnder the statue. He gave it to me in the car.\u201d<\/p>\n
He didn\u2019t say anything.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou have a daughter,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n
He nodded. Slowly. He didn\u2019t look at me.<\/p>\n
\u201cHer name is Lila.\u201d<\/p>\n
He nodded again.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe\u2019s twenty-three.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cTwenty-three in August,\u201d he said quietly. \u201cAugust ninth.\u201d<\/p>\n
He knew her birthday.<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t know why that\u2019s the thing that broke me. But it was. He knew her birthday. Twenty-three years, and he never told me she existed, but he knew her birthday.<\/p>\n
I sat down on the floor of the front hall. Right there. With my back against the front door. Across from him and the statue.<\/p>\n
\u201cTell me,\u201d I said. \u201cAll of it. Right now.\u201d<\/p>\n
He told me.<\/p>\n
He was eighteen. A senior in high school in a little town in western Pennsylvania. His girlfriend\u2019s name was Dana. They\u2019d been together for a year. She was sweet and funny and wanted to be a teacher.<\/p>\n
In March of their senior year, she told him she was pregnant.<\/p>\n
\u201cI panicked,\u201d Paul said. He was looking at the floor. \u201cI was eighteen. I had a scholarship to Ohio State. Engineering. The first person in my family to go to college. My dad worked at the steel mill. My mom cleaned motel rooms. They\u2019d been saving for me since I was born.\u201d He swallowed. \u201cAnd Dana was pregnant. And I thought, my life is over.\u201c<\/p>\n
\u201cSo you left.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNot right away,\u201d he said. \u201cI tried. For a while. I went to the doctor\u2019s appointments with her. I was there when they told us it was a girl. I picked out the name. Lila. It was my grandmother\u2019s name.\u201d His voice broke. \u201cAnd then I graduated. And it was summer. And Ohio State sent me a letter about orientation. And I just\u2026 went.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou just went.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI told myself I\u2019d come back on weekends,\u201d Paul said. \u201cI told myself I\u2019d send money. I told Dana I\u2019d be there for the birth.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWere you?\u201d<\/p>\n
He shook his head.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe was born on August ninth,\u201d he said. \u201cI was at orientation. In Columbus. I was at a pizza party for engineering students. Dana\u2019s mother called my dorm room at two in the morning. I didn\u2019t call back until the next afternoon.\u201d He put his face in his hands. \u201cI drove home that weekend. I held her once. In the hospital. She was so small. She grabbed my finger.\u201d<\/p>\n
I didn\u2019t say anything.<\/p>\n
\u201cDana told me not to come back,\u201d he said. \u201cShe was so angry. She said I\u2019d made my choice. She said she\u2019d rather Lila never know me than know a father who didn\u2019t show up.\u201d He laughed. It was a terrible laugh. \u201cAnd I thought, she\u2019s right. I thought, Lila\u2019s better off. I was eighteen and scared and I had a scholarship and I didn\u2019t know how to change a diaper. I thought, what do I have to offer her?\u201c<\/p>\n
\u201cSo you never went back.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI sent money,\u201d he said. \u201cFor a while. A hundred dollars a month. From my work-study job. For the first two years.\u201d He looked down at his hands. \u201cThen Dana got married. To a guy named Mike. A firefighter. He adopted Lila when she was three. Dana sent me a letter. She said they didn\u2019t need my money anymore. She said Mike was Lila\u2019s father now. She said it would be confusing for Lila to have me around.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd you agreed.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI was twenty-one,\u201d he said. \u201cAnd I was so relieved.\u201d He was crying now. \u201cDo you understand, Tara? I was relieved. When I got that letter. I felt like somebody had taken a piano off my chest. I told myself it was the best thing for her. A real dad. A firefighter. A good guy. Not some scared kid in a dorm room.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd you never told me.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI never told anybody,\u201d he said. \u201cNot my roommates. Not my friends. Not you. I put it in a box and I put the box on a shelf in the back of my head, and I just\u2026 kept going. I graduated. I got a job. I met you. We got married. We had Ella.\u201d He looked at me. His eyes were red. \u201cAnd every single year, on August ninth, I\u2019d go for a long drive by myself. You never knew why.\u201d<\/p>\n
I remembered. Every August. I just need to clear my head. He\u2019d be gone for hours.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019d drive to the overlook,\u201d he said. \u201cUp on Route 33. And I\u2019d sit there and think, she\u2019s twelve today. She\u2019s sixteen. She\u2019s twenty-one. And then I\u2019d drive home and help with dinner like nothing happened.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThree weeks ago,\u201d I said. \u201cThe Sunday. The laptop.\u201d<\/p>\n
He nodded.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe found me,\u201d he said. \u201cOn Facebook. Through your Instagram, actually. You tagged me in a picture from Benny\u2019s birthday. She sent me an email. It was long. It said\u2026\u201d He stopped. He wiped his face. \u201cIt said she\u2019d always known. That Mike told her when she was twelve. That Mike was a great dad and she loved him. That he died two years ago. Heart attack. On a fire call.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cOh, God.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cShe said she\u2019d been thinking about it since he died. About me. About whether she wanted to know me. She said she was in an art program now. An MFA. Sculpture. In Cincinnati. Two hours away.\u201d He swallowed. \u201cShe said she wasn\u2019t asking for anything. She just wanted to meet me. Once. To see my face. To ask me why.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd you didn\u2019t answer.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI couldn\u2019t,\u201d he said. \u201cI sat there at the kitchen table and I read it fifteen times. And I couldn\u2019t breathe. Twenty-three years of not thinking about it, and suddenly it was right there. On the screen. Her name. Lila. My grandmother\u2019s name.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cSo you went to the basement.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cSo I went to the basement,\u201d he said. \u201cAnd I called in sick. And I\u2019ve been sitting down there for three weeks looking at her pictures on Facebook. She\u2019s beautiful, Tara. She has my nose. The bump. She has Dana\u2019s eyes. She does these sculptures. Huge ones. Of people. She won an award last year.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd she wrote again.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cTwice more,\u201d Paul said. \u201cAnother email. And then a real letter. On paper. To our house. I got to the mailbox before you did.\u201d He laughed weakly. \u201cEvery day for two weeks, I ran to the mailbox. You didn\u2019t even notice.\u201d<\/p>\n
I hadn\u2019t. I didn\u2019t notice anything.<\/p>\n
\u201cI didn\u2019t answer any of them,\u201d he said. \u201cI couldn\u2019t. Every time I started to write back, I\u2019d think about you. And the kids. And I\u2019d think, I\u2019m going to have to tell Tara. And I\u2019d think about your dad.\u201d<\/p>\n
I flinched.<\/p>\n
\u201cYour dad left you when you were six,\u201d Paul said quietly. \u201cAnd never came back. And you told me on our third date that you\u2019d never forgive him. That the worst thing a person can do is leave a kid behind.\u201d He looked at me. \u201cAnd I sat across that table from you and I thought, I did that. That\u2019s me. I\u2019m your dad.\u201c<\/p>\n
I closed my eyes.<\/p>\n
\u201cI married you because you were steady,\u201d I said. \u201cBecause you were quiet. Because I thought, this one stays.\u201c<\/p>\n
\u201cI know.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou\u2019re not steady, Paul,\u201d I said. \u201cYou\u2019re just quiet. There\u2019s a difference.\u201d<\/p>\n
He didn\u2019t say anything.<\/p>\n
We sat on the floor of the front hall for a long time. Neither of us said anything.<\/p>\n
The statue leaned against the wall between us. Its blank white eyes looking at the front door. Its arms reaching out.<\/p>\n
I looked at it. Really looked at it. For the first time.<\/p>\n
She\u2019d gotten everything right. Every detail. The bump on his nose. The scar on his chin. The little crease between his eyebrows when he\u2019s worried. The way his left shoulder sits a little lower than his right.<\/p>\n
She\u2019d studied my Instagram for six months. My pictures. My family. My husband\u2019s face at Benny\u2019s birthday party. At the beach last summer. At Rosie\u2019s preschool graduation, holding her up so she could see.<\/p>\n
She\u2019d built him. With her own hands. Out of clay that would melt in the rain.<\/p>\n
And she\u2019d left the hands off.<\/p>\n
I didn\u2019t know what you\u2019d do with them.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe left it on the porch,\u201d I said. \u201cLast night. In the dark. Knowing it might rain.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI know.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cShe drove two hours from Cincinnati with a six-foot clay statue of you in the back of a car,\u201d I said. \u201cAnd she carried it up our porch steps in the middle of the night. And she wrote a note. And she drove home.\u201d I looked at him. \u201cAnd she didn\u2019t knock.\u201d<\/p>\n
Paul put his face in his hands again.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe gave you a choice,\u201d I said. \u201cLet it wash away, and she\u2019ll disappear. Or bring it inside, and call her.\u201d I looked at the statue. \u201cYou brought it inside.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI didn\u2019t even think,\u201d he said. \u201cI saw it, and I just\u2026 I couldn\u2019t let it melt. I couldn\u2019t. I saw my own face on the porch in the rain, and I thought about her hands making it, and I just grabbed it.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThen you know what you have to do,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n
He looked up at me.<\/p>\n
\u201cCall her,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n
He didn\u2019t call her right away.<\/p>\n
He sat on the stairs with his phone in his hand for an hour. I watched him. I didn\u2019t push.<\/p>\n
I went into the kitchen. I made coffee. I made two cups. I brought him one. He didn\u2019t drink it.<\/p>\n
Around eleven, he looked up at me.<\/p>\n
\u201cAre you leaving me?\u201d he asked.<\/p>\n
I didn\u2019t answer right away.<\/p>\n
I\u2019d been thinking about it. For two hours, since the school parking lot. I\u2019d been thinking about my father. About how I\u2019d sworn I would never, ever be married to a man who left a child behind.<\/p>\n
And I was.<\/p>\n
\u201cI don\u2019t know,\u201d I said honestly. \u201cI\u2019m so angry at you I can barely look at you.\u201d<\/p>\n
He nodded. He looked down at his phone.<\/p>\n
\u201cBut I\u2019m not leaving today,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n
He looked up.<\/p>\n
\u201cBecause if I leave today,\u201d I said, \u201cyou\u2019ll go back down to that basement. And you\u2019ll never call her. And she\u2019ll stand on some porch somewhere for the rest of her life, waiting. In her good dress. Every Saturday.\u201d My voice cracked. \u201cAnd I\u2019m not going to let that happen. Not to her. I know what it\u2019s like. I won\u2019t let you do it twice.\u201d<\/p>\n
He stared at me.<\/p>\n
\u201cCall her, Paul,\u201d I said. \u201cRight now. While I\u2019m sitting here. Or I\u2019ll call her myself.\u201d<\/p>\n
He looked at the phone in his hand for a long time.<\/p>\n
Then he dialed.<\/p>\n
It rang four times.<\/p>\n
I could hear it. I was sitting right next to him on the stairs.<\/p>\n
On the fifth ring, a voice answered. Young. Careful.<\/p>\n
\u201cHello?\u201d<\/p>\n
Paul opened his mouth. Nothing came out.<\/p>\n
\u201cHello?\u201d the voice said again. \u201cWho is this?\u201d<\/p>\n
He swallowed.<\/p>\n
\u201cLila,\u201d he said. His voice cracked on her name. \u201cIt\u2019s Paul. It\u2019s\u2026 it\u2019s your\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
He couldn\u2019t say it.<\/p>\n
There was a long silence on the line.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou brought it inside,\u201d Lila said finally. Very quietly. \u201cDidn\u2019t you.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cBefore the rain?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cBefore the rain,\u201d Paul said. \u201cFirst thing. This morning.\u201d<\/p>\n
Another long silence. I heard her breathe out. A long, shaky breath.<\/p>\n
\u201cI didn\u2019t think you would,\u201d she said. \u201cI really didn\u2019t. I thought you\u2019d let it melt.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI almost did,\u201d Paul said. \u201cFor three weeks. With your emails. I almost let it all melt.\u201d He was crying. \u201cI\u2019m sorry, Lila. I\u2019m so sorry. For not writing back. For not\u2026 for everything. For twenty-three years.\u201d<\/p>\n
She didn\u2019t say anything.<\/p>\n
\u201cCan I see you?\u201d he asked. \u201cPlease. Not on the phone. In person. I want to look at you. I want you to ask me whatever you want to ask me.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWhy,\u201d Lila said. \u201cThat\u2019s what I want to ask you. Why.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI know,\u201d Paul said. \u201cI\u2019ll tell you. Everything. I promise.\u201d<\/p>\n
There was a long pause.<\/p>\n
\u201cSaturday,\u201d Lila said. \u201cMy studio. In Cincinnati. Two o\u2019clock.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019ll be there.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cCome alone,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
Paul looked at me.<\/p>\n
I shook my head.<\/p>\n
\u201cNo,\u201d I said. Loud enough for her to hear. \u201cHe\u2019s not coming alone.\u201d<\/p>\n
There was silence on the line.<\/p>\n
\u201cWho\u2019s that?\u201d Lila asked.<\/p>\n
Paul handed me the phone.<\/p>\n
I took it. My hands were shaking.<\/p>\n
\u201cLila,\u201d I said. \u201cMy name is Tara. I\u2019m Paul\u2019s wife.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI know who you are,\u201d Lila said quietly. \u201cI\u2019ve seen you. In your pictures. You\u2019re the one who posts everything.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI am,\u201d I said. \u201cLila, I didn\u2019t know about you. I want you to know that. Until this morning, I didn\u2019t know you existed. My seven-year-old found your note under the statue. That\u2019s how I found out.\u201d<\/p>\n
She didn\u2019t say anything.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m not calling to defend him,\u201d I said. \u201cI\u2019m so angry at him I can\u2019t see straight. I\u2019m calling because my father left me when I was six. And I wrote him a letter when I was sixteen. And he never wrote back.\u201d I took a breath. \u201cAnd I\u2019m not going to let my husband be that man for one more day. So I\u2019m coming with him. To make sure he shows up. And to make sure he doesn\u2019t leave until you\u2019re done asking him why.\u201d<\/p>\n
The line was quiet for a long time.<\/p>\n
Then I heard something. A small sound. Like someone trying not to cry.<\/p>\n
\u201cOkay,\u201d Lila said. \u201cOkay. You can come.\u201d<\/p>\n
On Saturday, we left the kids with my sister. We drove two hours to Cincinnati. Paul didn\u2019t say a word the whole way. He held the steering wheel with both hands. At a rest stop near Dayton, he went into the bathroom and stayed there for fifteen minutes. When he came out, his eyes were red.<\/p>\n
Lila\u2019s studio was in an old warehouse in a neighborhood called Over-the-Rhine. Brick walls. Big windows. A freight elevator with a gate you had to pull closed yourself.<\/p>\n
We went up to the fourth floor.<\/p>\n
The door was open.<\/p>\n
The studio was huge. One big room with a concrete floor and high ceilings and windows all along one wall. Everywhere, there were sculptures. Clay ones. Some finished, glazed and shining. Some still raw and gray, wrapped in plastic to keep them wet.<\/p>\n
People. All of them were people. An old man sitting on a bench. A woman holding a baby. A boy reaching up for something on a shelf.<\/p>\n
And in the middle of the room, standing next to a big wooden worktable covered in tools, there was a young woman.<\/p>\n
She was tall. Thin. Wearing overalls covered in dried clay and a gray T-shirt. Her dark hair was pulled back in a messy knot. There was clay on her hands. Clay on her cheek.<\/p>\n
She had Paul\u2019s nose. The little bump. Right there.<\/p>\n
She had big brown eyes. Dana\u2019s eyes, I guessed.<\/p>\n
She was standing very still, with her hands at her sides. Looking at us.<\/p>\n
Paul stopped in the doorway.<\/p>\n
For a long moment, nobody moved.<\/p>\n
Then Paul said, very quietly, \u201cHi, Lila.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cHi,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
He took a step into the room. Then another. Then he stopped. About ten feet from her. Like he didn\u2019t know if he was allowed to come any closer.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou look like your mother,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n
\u201cEverybody says I look like you,\u201d Lila said. \u201cMike used to say it. When I was a teenager and I was mad at him. He\u2019d say, You\u2019ve got your father\u2019s nose and your father\u2019s temper.\u201d She almost smiled. \u201cI didn\u2019t know what he meant about the temper. I\u2019d never met you.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI don\u2019t have a temper,\u201d Paul said.<\/p>\n
\u201cNo,\u201d Lila said. \u201cI guess you don\u2019t. You just leave.\u201d<\/p>\n
He flinched like she\u2019d hit him.<\/p>\n
She asked him why.<\/p>\n
She asked him standing there in the middle of her studio, surrounded by clay people, with her arms crossed and her chin up. She didn\u2019t cry. She just asked.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhy didn\u2019t you come back? Why didn\u2019t you ever write? Why did you stop sending money? Did you ever think about me? Did you ever wonder what I looked like? Did you know when Mike died? Did you care?\u201d<\/p>\n
And he told her.<\/p>\n
All of it. The same things he told me on the floor of our front hall. Eighteen and scared. The scholarship. The pizza party at orientation while she was being born. Holding her once in the hospital. Her tiny hand on his finger. Dana telling him not to come back. The relief when Mike adopted her. The box on the shelf in the back of his head.<\/p>\n
The drives to the overlook every August ninth.<\/p>\n
\u201cEvery year,\u201d he said. \u201cEvery single year. I\u2019d sit there and think about you. She\u2019s ten today. She\u2019s fifteen. She\u2019s driving now. She\u2019s graduating.\u201d He was crying. \u201cI knew your birthday, Lila. I always knew. I just didn\u2019t know you.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lila stared at him.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou drove to an overlook,\u201d she said slowly. \u201cEvery year. On my birthday. To think about me.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cFor twenty-three years.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd it never once occurred to you,\u201d she said, \u201cto drive two hours to Pennsylvania instead? To where I actually was?\u201d<\/p>\n
Paul didn\u2019t say anything.<\/p>\n
\u201cI was right there,\u201d Lila said. Her voice was shaking now. \u201cThe whole time. Same town. Same house. Mom never moved. You could have knocked on the door any day. Any birthday. Any Christmas. I would have opened it.\u201d She pressed her hand against her mouth. \u201cI used to sit on the front steps. Did you know that? When I was little. Before Mike. I used to sit on the front steps on Saturday mornings and wait. Because Grandma told me maybe my dad would come visit.\u201d<\/p>\n
I made a sound. I didn\u2019t mean to.<\/p>\n
Lila looked at me.<\/p>\n
\u201cI did that too,\u201d I said quietly. \u201cWhen I was six. For a year. In my good dress. Every Saturday.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lila looked at me for a long time.<\/p>\n
\u201cDid yours ever come?\u201d she asked.<\/p>\n
\u201cNo,\u201d I said. \u201cNever.\u201d<\/p>\n
She nodded slowly. She looked back at Paul.<\/p>\n
\u201cThen I guess that\u2019s why she came with you,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
We stayed for three hours.<\/p>\n
At some point, Lila made tea on a hot plate in the corner of the studio. In mismatched mugs she\u2019d made herself. Lumpy and glazed in blue and green. She handed one to Paul without looking at him. She handed one to me and said, \u201cSorry, the handle\u2019s a little crooked.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s beautiful,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n
We sat on stools around her worktable. She told us about Mike. The firefighter. The real dad. Who taught her to ride a bike and drove her to art classes every Saturday and came to every single show she ever had, even the ones in tiny coffee shops with four paintings on the wall.<\/p>\n
\u201cHe used to say I had magic hands,\u201d she said. \u201cHe\u2019d watch me work with clay and say, Lila, you could make anything. You could make a whole person.\u201d She looked down at her mug. \u201cAfter he died, I couldn\u2019t make anything for months. My hands wouldn\u2019t work. And then one night, I sat down and started making him. Mike. From memory. It took me four months.\u201d She nodded toward the corner of the studio. \u201cThat\u2019s him. Over there.\u201d<\/p>\n
We turned. In the corner, there was a sculpture of a man. Big. Broad-shouldered. In a firefighter\u2019s coat. Kneeling on one knee. Holding out his arms like he was waiting for a little kid to run into them.<\/p>\n
He had hands. Big, strong, beautiful hands. Open. Reaching.<\/p>\n
Paul stared at it for a long time.<\/p>\n
\u201cAfter I finished him,\u201d Lila said, \u201cI thought, I want to make the other one. The one I never knew. So I found you on Facebook. Through your wife\u2019s Instagram. And I started studying your face. And I made you.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWithout hands,\u201d Paul said quietly.<\/p>\n
\u201cWithout hands,\u201d Lila said. She looked at him. \u201cI made Mike\u2019s hands from memory. I knew exactly what they looked like. I held them every day for twenty years.\u201d She paused. \u201cI\u2019d never held yours. I didn\u2019t know what they looked like. I didn\u2019t know what they\u2019d do. If they\u2019d reach out. Or push me away.\u201d She looked down at her own clay-covered hands. \u201cSo I left them off. I figured you could finish them yourself. If you wanted to.\u201d<\/p>\n
Paul looked at his own hands. Resting on the worktable.<\/p>\n
\u201cI don\u2019t know how to make anything,\u201d he said. \u201cOut of clay.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNeither did I,\u201d Lila said. \u201cOnce.\u201d<\/p>\n
On the drive home, Paul was quiet for a long time.<\/p>\n
Then, around Dayton, he said, \u201cI have to tell the kids.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes,\u201d I said. \u201cYou do.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cHow do I tell them? How do I explain it? Ella\u2019s ten. She\u2019s going to have questions. She\u2019s going to look at me the way Lila looked at me.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cProbably,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat if she hates me?\u201d<\/p>\n
I looked out the window at the dark highway.<\/p>\n
\u201cThen she hates you,\u201d I said. \u201cFor a while. And you\u2019ll have to earn it back. Just like with Lila. Just like with me.\u201d I looked at him. \u201cThat\u2019s what you get for twenty-three years of quiet, Paul. You don\u2019t get to skip the hard part.\u201d<\/p>\n
He nodded slowly.<\/p>\n
\u201cAre we okay?\u201d he asked. \u201cYou and me?\u201d<\/p>\n
I thought about it for a long time.<\/p>\n
\u201cI don\u2019t know yet,\u201d I said. \u201cI\u2019m still so angry. I don\u2019t know if I\u2019ll ever stop being angry about it.\u201d I looked out the window. \u201cBut I watched you today. I watched you stand in that studio and let her yell at you. You didn\u2019t leave. You didn\u2019t go quiet. You didn\u2019t go back down to the basement.\u201d I took a breath. \u201cThat\u2019s something. That\u2019s a start.\u201d<\/p>\n
We told the kids on Sunday.<\/p>\n
We sat them down at the kitchen table. Paul did the talking. I sat next to him and held his hand under the table.<\/p>\n
He told them he had a daughter. From a long time ago. Before he met me. That her name was Lila. That she was twenty-three. That she was an artist. That she made the statue.<\/p>\n
He told them that he didn\u2019t do a good job of being her dad. That he was scared, and young, and he made a really big mistake. That he left her and didn\u2019t come back. That another man, a firefighter named Mike, was her dad instead. That Mike died. And that she\u2019d come looking for him.<\/p>\n
Rosie didn\u2019t really understand. She asked if Lila liked dinosaurs.<\/p>\n
Benny wanted to know if Lila could make a statue of him too. A cool one. With muscles.<\/p>\n
Ella didn\u2019t say anything for a long time.<\/p>\n
She sat at the kitchen table with her hands folded in front of her. She looked at her father. That serious little frown.<\/p>\n
\u201cSo I have a sister,\u201d she said finally.<\/p>\n
\u201cA half-sister,\u201d Paul said. \u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cA big sister.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
Ella was quiet again.<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd you left her,\u201d she said. \u201cWhen she was a baby.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes,\u201d Paul said. His voice was very quiet. \u201cI did.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cLike Grandpa Ray left Mom.\u201d<\/p>\n
I flinched. I\u2019d told Ella about my father last year. When she asked why she only had one grandpa.<\/p>\n
\u201cYes,\u201d Paul said. \u201cJust like that.\u201d<\/p>\n
Ella looked at him for a very long time. I could see her thinking. Ten years old. Turning it over in her head.<\/p>\n
\u201cWould you ever leave us?\u201d she asked.<\/p>\n
Paul\u2019s face crumpled.<\/p>\n
\u201cNo,\u201d he said. \u201cNever. Never, Ella. I promise.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cHow do I know?\u201d<\/p>\n
He didn\u2019t have an answer.<\/p>\n
Ella got up from the table. She went up to her room. She closed the door.<\/p>\n
She didn\u2019t talk to him for three days.<\/p>\n
On the fourth day, she knocked on the door of the basement.<\/p>\n
Paul was down there. Not hiding anymore. Working. He\u2019d bought a big bag of clay from an art supply store. A set of sculpting tools. He\u2019d been trying, every night after the kids went to bed, to make a hand.<\/p>\n
He was terrible at it. Really terrible. He\u2019d made eleven hands so far. They all looked like lumpy potatoes with sticks coming out of them.<\/p>\n
Ella came down the stairs. She stood at the bottom and looked at him sitting at the old card table with clay all over his fingers.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat are you doing?\u201d she asked.<\/p>\n
\u201cTrying to make hands,\u201d Paul said. \u201cFor the statue. Lila left them off. She said I should finish them myself.\u201d<\/p>\n
Ella came over. She looked at the eleven lumpy potato hands lined up on the table.<\/p>\n
\u201cThose are really bad, Dad,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
\u201cI know.\u201d<\/p>\n
She was quiet for a while. Then she pulled up a chair. She sat down next to him. She picked up a lump of clay.<\/p>\n
\u201cMs. Hendricks taught us clay in art class,\u201d she said. \u201cLast year. We made pinch pots.\u201d She started rolling the clay between her palms. \u201cYou have to start with the shape of the palm first. Then add the fingers. One at a time. You\u2019re doing it all at once. That\u2019s why it looks like potatoes.\u201d<\/p>\n
Paul stared at his daughter.<\/p>\n
She didn\u2019t look at him. She just kept rolling the clay.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m still mad at you,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
\u201cI know,\u201d Paul said.<\/p>\n
\u201cBut Lila should have hands,\u201d Ella said. \u201cEverybody should have hands.\u201d<\/p>\n
It took them three weeks.<\/p>\n
Every night after dinner, Paul and Ella went down to the basement. At first it was just the two of them. Then Benny wanted to come. Then Rosie, who mostly just made snakes and smushed them.<\/p>\n
I\u2019d go down sometimes and sit on the old couch and watch. The four of them around the card table, with clay up to their elbows, arguing about fingers.<\/p>\n
\u201cThe thumb\u2019s too long,\u201d Ella would say.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s not too long. I have long thumbs,\u201d Paul would say.<\/p>\n
\u201cNot that long. Dad. Look at your own thumb.\u201d<\/p>\n
They made forty-two hands. Maybe more. Most of them were terrible. Some of them were less terrible. One of them, made by Benny, was a fist with only three fingers that he said was \u201ca robot hand.\u201d<\/p>\n
Then one night in late November, Paul held up a pair of hands.<\/p>\n
They weren\u2019t perfect. They were a little stiff. The knuckles were too big. The fingers were slightly uneven.<\/p>\n
But they were hands. Real hands. Open. Palms up. Like they were reaching out for something. Or offering something.<\/p>\n
He\u2019d made them by looking at his own hands. For hours. Turning them over under the lamp in the basement. Memorizing them.<\/p>\n
The way Lila had memorized his face.<\/p>\n
Ella looked at them for a long time.<\/p>\n
\u201cThose are good, Dad,\u201d she said quietly. \u201cThose are actually good.\u201d<\/p>\n
We drove them to Cincinnati the next Saturday. In a cardboard box full of wet towels, so they wouldn\u2019t dry out.<\/p>\n
Paul called Lila first. He asked if we could come. All of us. The whole family. He said he understood if she said no.<\/p>\n
She was quiet on the phone for a long time.<\/p>\n
\u201cBring the statue,\u201d she said finally. \u201cAnd the hands. And them.\u201d<\/p>\n
So we loaded the statue into the back of the minivan, wrapped in blankets and plastic. Paul drove. Ella sat in the passenger seat, holding the box of hands on her lap like it was full of eggs. Benny and Rosie were in the back, singing.<\/p>\n
When we got to the studio, Lila was waiting at the top of the freight elevator.<\/p>\n
She saw the kids. She stopped.<\/p>\n
Rosie walked right up to her. Four years old. In her dinosaur suit, because she\u2019d decided she was going to wear it every day until Christmas.<\/p>\n
\u201cAre you Lila?\u201d Rosie asked.<\/p>\n
\u201cYes,\u201d Lila said.<\/p>\n
\u201cDo you like dinosaurs?\u201d<\/p>\n
Lila looked down at her. At this small, sticky, fearless little girl with her father\u2019s dark hair.<\/p>\n
She smiled. It was the first real smile I\u2019d ever seen on her face.<\/p>\n
\u201cI love dinosaurs,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
Rosie grabbed her hand. Clay and all. And dragged her into the studio to show her the tail.<\/p>\n
Benny asked if she\u2019d make a statue of him. With muscles. Lila said maybe.<\/p>\n
Ella hung back. Shy. Watching. She held the box of hands against her chest.<\/p>\n
Lila came over to her.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou\u2019re Ella,\u201d she said. \u201cYou\u2019re the oldest.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou\u2019re the oldest,\u201d Ella said. \u201cNow.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lila thought about that for a second.<\/p>\n
\u201cI guess I am,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
Ella held out the box.<\/p>\n
\u201cWe made these,\u201d she said. \u201cMe and Dad. And Benny, but his were mostly robot hands. And Rosie, but she just made snakes.\u201d She swallowed. \u201cDad did the final ones. We practiced for three weeks.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lila opened the box. She unwrapped the wet towels.<\/p>\n
She looked at the hands for a long time.<\/p>\n
They were lying side by side in the box. Open. Palms up. A little stiff. A little uneven.<\/p>\n
Reaching.<\/p>\n
Lila didn\u2019t say anything. She just picked them up. Carefully. One at a time. Like they might break.<\/p>\n
She carried them over to the statue. Paul had unwrapped it. It was standing in the middle of the studio. Six feet of smooth white clay. His face. His shoulders. His arms reaching out, ending in blank, rounded wrists.<\/p>\n
Lila stood in front of it with the clay hands in her own.<\/p>\n
She looked at Paul.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou want to do it?\u201d she asked. \u201cOr should I?\u201d<\/p>\n
Paul came over. He stood next to her.<\/p>\n
\u201cTogether?\u201d he said.<\/p>\n
Lila looked at him for a long time.<\/p>\n
Then she nodded.<\/p>\n
They attached the hands together. Lila showed him how. You have to score the clay, she said. Scratch little lines into both surfaces. Add slip, which is clay mixed with water, like glue. Press them together. Smooth the seam with your thumbs until you can\u2019t tell where one piece ends and the other begins.<\/p>\n
Paul\u2019s hands were shaking. Lila\u2019s hands were steady. She put her hands over his and helped him smooth the seam.<\/p>\n
It was the first time they\u2019d ever touched. Except once. Twenty-three years ago. In a hospital. When she grabbed his finger.<\/p>\n
I stood in the corner of the studio with my three kids and watched my husband and his daughter smooth wet clay together with their thumbs.<\/p>\n
I was crying. I didn\u2019t care who saw.<\/p>\n
When they were done, Lila stepped back.<\/p>\n
The statue was finished.<\/p>\n
Paul\u2019s face. Paul\u2019s shoulders. Paul\u2019s arms. Reaching out. And at the ends of the arms, two hands. Open. Palms up. A little stiff. A little uneven.<\/p>\n
Offering.<\/p>\n
\u201cNow what?\u201d Paul asked quietly.<\/p>\n
\u201cNow we fire it,\u201d Lila said. \u201cIn the kiln. It takes about two days. It gets hotter than a thousand degrees in there.\u201d She looked at the statue. \u201cWhen it comes out, it won\u2019t be clay anymore. It\u2019ll be ceramic. Permanent. Rain won\u2019t wash it away. Nothing will.\u201d<\/p>\n
She looked at Paul.<\/p>\n
\u201cIs that what you want?\u201d she asked. \u201cTo make it permanent?\u201d<\/p>\n
Paul looked at the statue. At his own face. At the hands he\u2019d spent three weeks learning how to make, in a basement, with his ten-year-old daughter telling him the thumbs were too long.<\/p>\n
\u201cYes,\u201d he said. \u201cThat\u2019s what I want.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lila nodded slowly.<\/p>\n
\u201cOkay,\u201d she said. \u201cThen we\u2019ll fire it.\u201d<\/p>\n
That was a year ago.<\/p>\n
The statue is in our backyard now. Next to the treehouse that leans a little to the left. Lila glazed it after it came out of the kiln. Not white anymore. A soft, warm gray-blue, like the sky early in the morning. The hands are a slightly different color than the rest. A little darker. Paul says it\u2019s because they were made later. Lila says it\u2019s on purpose.<\/p>\n
\u201cSo you can always see where you finished it,\u201d she said. \u201cSo you remember you didn\u2019t start with hands. You had to learn them.\u201d<\/p>\n
Rosie hangs her jacket on the statue\u2019s hands when she comes in from the backyard. Benny tried to put a baseball cap on its head. Ella sits next to it sometimes with a book.<\/p>\n
Lila comes for dinner once a month. On Sundays. She drives two hours each way. She says she doesn\u2019t mind. She says it\u2019s a good drive to think.<\/p>\n
The first time she came, she stood in our front hall for a long time. Looking at the wall where the statue used to lean. Where Paul had sat on the bottom step with his face in his hands.<\/p>\n
\u201cThis is where he dragged it in?\u201d she asked me.<\/p>\n
\u201cRight there,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n
\u201cBefore the rain.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cBefore the rain,\u201d I said. \u201cFirst thing in the morning. In his bare feet. He didn\u2019t even stop to think.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lila looked at the spot on the floor for a long time.<\/p>\n
\u201cI almost didn\u2019t leave it,\u201d she said. \u201cThat night. I sat in my car outside your house for two hours. I almost drove home with it.\u201d She shook her head. \u201cI was so scared he\u2019d let it melt.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWhy did you leave it?\u201d<\/p>\n
She thought about it.<\/p>\n
\u201cBecause Mike would\u2019ve told me to,\u201d she said. \u201cHe always said, Lila, you can\u2019t make somebody love you. But you can give them a chance to show you they already do.\u201d She looked at me. \u201cSo I gave him a chance.\u201d<\/p>\n
Paul went back to work in November. Not to insurance. He quit.<\/p>\n
He got a job at a community art center in Columbus. Running their after-school program. For kids. He teaches them clay.<\/p>\n
He\u2019s still not very good at it himself. His hands are still lumpy. His thumbs are still too long.<\/p>\n
But he\u2019s good at teaching. He\u2019s patient. He shows the kids how to start with the palm and add the fingers one at a time. He tells them it\u2019s okay if it looks like a potato at first. He tells them everybody starts with potatoes.<\/p>\n
There\u2019s a kid in his class named Marcus. Eleven years old. Quiet. His dad\u2019s in prison. He comes every day and sits in the corner and makes the same thing over and over. A man. Just a small man, about six inches tall. Standing. With no face.<\/p>\n
Paul asked him once why he never puts a face on it.<\/p>\n
Marcus shrugged. \u201cI don\u2019t remember what he looks like,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n
Paul sat down next to him. He didn\u2019t say anything for a long time.<\/p>\n
Then he said, \u201cYou know what? You don\u2019t have to finish it. Not yet. You can leave it like that. And someday, if you want to, you can add the face. Or not. It\u2019s your sculpture. You decide.\u201d<\/p>\n
Marcus looked at him.<\/p>\n
\u201cDid you ever make one like this?\u201d he asked. \u201cOf somebody you didn\u2019t know?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cSomebody made one of me,\u201d Paul said. \u201cOnce. Without hands.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWhy without hands?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cBecause she didn\u2019t know what I\u2019d do with them,\u201d Paul said.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat did you do with them?\u201d<\/p>\n
Paul looked at his own hands. Covered in clay. A little lumpy. Thumbs too long.<\/p>\n
\u201cI finally figured out how to reach for her,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m not going to pretend everything is perfect.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m still angry sometimes. When I think about it. Twelve years of marriage and he never told me. When I think about the August drives to the overlook. When I think about a little girl on the front steps of a house in Pennsylvania in her good dress, waiting, every Saturday.<\/p>\n
Paul and I go to counseling now. Every other Thursday. A woman named Dr. Abernathy. She asks hard questions. Paul answers them. He doesn\u2019t go quiet anymore. He doesn\u2019t go back to the basement. That\u2019s what I hold on to.<\/p>\n
And I wrote a letter.<\/p>\n
To my father. Ray. Thirty-one years after he left. I found him on Facebook. He\u2019s seventy-three now. He lives in a retirement community in Fort Myers. He has a wife and a boat and a profile picture of himself holding a fish.<\/p>\n
I wrote him one page. I told him about my kids. About Ella and Benny and Rosie. About Lila. About the statue.<\/p>\n
I told him I used to sit on the front steps every Saturday in my good dress.<\/p>\n
I told him I wasn\u2019t asking for anything. I just wanted him to know I existed.<\/p>\n
He hasn\u2019t written back.<\/p>\n
Maybe he never will.<\/p>\n
But Lila says that\u2019s okay. She says the letter wasn\u2019t really for him.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s like the statue,\u201d she said. \u201cYou make it. You leave it on the porch. And then whatever happens, at least you know you gave them the chance.\u201d She looked at me. \u201cThe rest is up to them.\u201d<\/p>\n
Last Sunday, Lila came for dinner. It was raining.<\/p>\n
After dinner, while Paul and the kids were doing the dishes, she and I went out to the backyard with our coffee. We stood under the edge of the porch roof and looked at the statue.<\/p>\n
The rain was falling on it. Running down the gray-blue glaze. Down the face. Down the shoulders. Down the arms. Pooling in the open palms of the hands.<\/p>\n
It didn\u2019t wash away.<\/p>\n
It just stood there in the rain, reaching out, with water gathering in its hands like it was holding something.<\/p>\n
\u201cDo you ever think about what would have happened?\u201d Lila asked. \u201cIf he\u2019d let it melt?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cEvery day,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n
\u201cMe too,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
We stood there for a long time, watching the rain.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou know what I think about most?\u201d Lila said. \u201cThat morning. When he dragged it inside. You told me he didn\u2019t even stop to think. He just saw it and grabbed it.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThat\u2019s right.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI spent twenty-three years thinking he didn\u2019t want me,\u201d she said. \u201cThat he\u2019d thought about it and decided. That he\u2019d looked at me in that hospital and chose to leave.\u201d She shook her head. \u201cAnd then you tell me that when he saw my statue in the rain, he didn\u2019t think at all. He just grabbed it. Barefoot. Before anybody could stop him.\u201d<\/p>\n
She looked at the statue\u2019s hands. Full of rain.<\/p>\n
\u201cI think that\u2019s who he really is,\u201d she said. \u201cUnder all that quiet. Under all that fear. A guy who doesn\u2019t think. Who just grabs.\u201d She smiled a little. \u201cHe just took twenty-three years and a six-foot clay statue to figure it out.\u201d<\/p>\n
Behind us, the back door opened.<\/p>\n
Rosie came running out into the rain. In her dinosaur suit. She\u2019s five now. It\u2019s too small for her. She wears it anyway.<\/p>\n
She ran straight across the wet grass to the statue. She stood in front of it and looked up.<\/p>\n
Then she reached up and put her small hand in the statue\u2019s open palm. Right in the little pool of rainwater.<\/p>\n
\u201cHi, Clay Daddy,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
Lila laughed. A real laugh. The kind that surprises you.<\/p>\n
The back door opened again. Paul came out. He saw Rosie standing in the rain holding hands with the statue. He saw Lila laughing on the porch.<\/p>\n
He didn\u2019t say anything.<\/p>\n
He just walked down the porch steps into the rain. Barefoot. In the cold. Without stopping to think.<\/p>\n
He went over to Rosie. He picked her up. He held out his other hand.<\/p>\n
To Lila.<\/p>\n
She looked at it for a long moment. His real hand. A little lumpy. Thumbs too long.<\/p>\n
Reaching.<\/p>\n
Then she put down her coffee cup and walked down the steps into the rain and took it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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